TheWhispersOfHerWorld

Girl get up, It’s so much growth beyond this hurt!!

Let’s be real sis, there’s a lot of pain that comes with doing this mom thing alone.

When you’re the only parent showing up, it hits like a ton of bricks.

You feel it in the those quiet moments like when your kid’s asleep, and it  just be you and your thoughts?  Yeah that’s it ! 

You start asking yourself: Did I fail them? Did I choose wrong? Am I enough?

And that guilt? It can swallow you whole, literally.

But let me tell you this baby you didn’t fail, and you are most definetly enough.

It’s okay to feel hurt. It’s okay to cry when you think about what shoulda been, what coulda been and what’s NOT! But what matters is what is. And what is might you ask? You the answer is YOU. 

You’re there. You’re trying. You’re loving them with every piece of yourself. And that’s everything.

Some days, I don’t feel like a good mom.

I look at my girl and think: You deserve so much better than me.

But then she  looks at me with those eyes, full of love and trust, and it reminds me…this girl  don’t care about the things I’m beating myself up for. She for sure  doesn’t  care that her father isn’t around. What matters is, is that I’m here!

And their love? It’s the kind of love that’ll pull you out of the darkest places.

They’ll love you when you don’t even love yourself.

That love will push you to heights you never thought possible. Trust me! 

Let’s talk about these baby daddies for a second tho. 

Here’s a truth no one tells you: just because he got you pregnant doesn’t mean you’re supposed to marry him. (S/O to my great granny for passing along that gem) 

Don’t marry him because society says “keep the family together.” Don’t marry him because you feel guilty or because you think it’s what your kid needs.

Marry someone who WANTS to be there.

Marry someone who shows up—because anything less isn’t worth your time or energy. 

WE SAID WHAT WE SAID, and if you need to re read it, please do so! 

And if he’s not showing up? Let it go. Stop chasing something that was never yours to begin with. You’ll find better. You’ll find peace. But you won’t find it by holding onto someone who doesn’t want to stay. 

“Girl let it GO” -Elsa 

Now, let’s be honest about the messy parts:

When he moves on and gets a new girlfriend? It’s going to STINGGGGGG BABY!

You’ll feel jealous. You’ll feel replaced.

And honestly, that’s normal. You’re human.

You spent so much time trying to make something work with him that seeing him happy somewhere else feels like a slap in the face.

But let me tell you something: your time is coming.

Statistically, we don’t fully get over our child’s father until the kid is around four years old. After that? You won’t even care. You’ll look at him and think, Wow, I was pressed over THAT? 

The peace that comes when you finally let go? It’s unmatched. When i say unmatched, i mean truly unmatched. 

Ima kick it to you straight: this journey isn’t easy.

There’s going to be hurt. There’s going to be doubt. There’s going to be days when you feel like giving up.

But your child’s love is the anchor that’ll keep you grounded.

Their love is unconditional. It’s pure. And it’ll remind you, every single day, that you’re doing something right.

You don’t need a nigga to feel whole.

You don’t need a nigga to be a good mom.

You don’t need a nigga to grow, to thrive, to be the incredible woman you’re becoming.

This isn’t just about raising your child.

It’s about raising yourself, too.

So cry if you need to. Feel the hurt. Let it all out.

But know this: you are worthy. You are strong. And you are more than enough.

Until we meet again, sis!